Learning to become confident in your bisexual identity

For instance, if a bisexual person is in a relationship with someone of the opposite gender, it does not mean they are not part of the LGBTQIA+ community. Outward appearances of heteronormativity do not define someone's sexuality. We can be better allies to the entire LGBTQIA+ community by not making assumptions about people's sexuality or gender orientation based on their current relationship.

Personally, I have always struggled with defining my sexuality. I have predominantly dated the opposite gender (males) and am in a long-term relationship with a male partner. However, in my life I have also been attracted to females and have been interested in pursuing relationships with them. I have always felt self-conscious and something akin to imposter syndrome in calling myself bisexual, as my dating history is more focused towards one gender. However, if we go back to the definition of bisexuality, it is someone who can be attracted to more than one gender. It doesn’t have any relation to who you have previously dated, and it doesn’t matter if you have a bigger preference for one gender. 

I am now learning to become more confident in identifying as a member of the LGBTQIA+ community, and we can help others on this journey. I have seen some great examples of allyship to the community in the workplace. For example, inquiring about someone’s partner instead of a girlfriend/boyfriend is a simple but impactful form of allyship. Similarly, not assuming someone’s sexuality based on who they have previously dated or questioning their sexuality and bisexuality based on their dating history are important steps we can take. 

In conclusion, by fostering a more inclusive and understanding environment, we can support the bisexual community and the broader LGBTQIA+ community. Let's continue to educate ourselves, challenge misconceptions, and be allies in every aspect of our lives. Happy Bisexual Visibility month!