Celebrating Bisexual Visibility: Panel Recap

In honor of Bisexual Visibility Month, myGwork hosted a panel with five business professionals, who gathered to shed light on the topic of bisexual visibility. Jennifer Williams from Marsh McLennan, Nabeela Butt from GSK, Sean Brennan from JP Morgan Chase, Ali Reed from PHD UK, and Josh Buehling from Enterprise shared their experiences, challenges, and advice, emphasizing the need for acceptance, understanding, and a supportive community. Their insightful perspectives offer valuable lessons for individuals struggling with being their authentic self.

Jennifer Williams from Marsh McLennan voiced her frustration with the constant need for validation and quantification of attraction faced by bisexual individuals. She highlighted the underrepresentation of the bisexual community within the larger LGBTQ+ community and the constant scrutiny faced by individuals questioning their place in it.

"Are you only bisexual if you’ve dated a woman and a man? It’s not Pokémon; I don’t need to collect them all to be legit. We’re the largest demographic in the LGBTQ+ community, but the most underrepresented, and the most questioned as to whether we belong there.”

Nabeela Butt from GSK emphasized the significance of giving yourself and others time to adjust. Coming out stories can be complex and may take time for family and friends to fully comprehend and accept. She advised against adhering to timelines or feeling pressured to meet certain expectations, encouraging members of the community to exercise patience and understanding and to bear with their loved ones as they come to terms with new information.

“Give yourself and others around you the gift of time. Don’t be held to any timeline, don’t feel like there’s an agenda you need to hold to. For family and friends who hear a coming out story, it might take them a bit of time to digest. So also, bear with that.”

Sean Brennan from JP Morgan Chase highlighted the core meaning of being bisexual. He emphasized the power of owning and sharing experiences without fear of inadvertently hurting or offending others. He stressed that embracing authenticity can be a transformative and empowering act.

"What does it mean to be bisexual? To be my full self. We say that a lot, but it’s not trite. To be able to share yourself and not be worried about saying something about someone else.”

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Ali Reed from PHD UK also acknowledged the challenges of being your authentic self, particularly in situations where it may not be safe to do so. Understanding that every situation is different, Reed advised seeking out communities that provide safety, understanding, and support.

“It’s all very well to say, ‘I had a positive journey, you don’t need to care what other people think’, but being your authentic self is sometimes really hard. In some situations, it’s not even safe to do. My advice is to find those communities of people that will keep you safe and that will understand and be on your team. Everybody’s situation is different, so my advice is to just find that safe space.”

Josh Buehling from Enterprise shared his personal journey of prioritizing self-care and mental health. In his own experience, he realized the importance of not being responsible for other people's reactions or emotions.

“By living your authentic self, you are not responsible for how someone reacts to that. You are not responsible for other people’s emotions. Through my own mental health journey, I used to always put everybody else first and be the person who would bring everyone else up in the room, but you have to learn that you are number one, you are the main character in your own story, you are living your life for you and not anyone else. Feed into your own happiness.”

The panel discussion on bisexual visibility provided invaluable insights into the challenges faced by bisexual individuals, including the frustration of stereotypes, underrepresentation in the LGBTQ+ community, and the struggle to find safe spaces.

You can watch the full panel discussion here.

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